Tuesday, May 14, 2019

What should I say?

I don’t use cancer patient slogans. That doesn’t mean I’ve given up. That doesn’t mean I’m depressed. It’s just that high octane positive thinking is not my style.

I’m pragmatic, less emotional, and maybe a touch more reality-based. I try to avoid self-delusion. (Maybe I’m deluded about my pragmatic, less emotional, reality-based lack of self-delusion. Hmmmm…)

My slogan (if I were the sloganeering type) might be, “We’re going to give it our best shot and see what happens.” Or, “If I remain cautiously optimistic I’ll be all the gladder if I’m cured rather than even more crushed if I’m not.” Neither of those work well on walkathon T-shirts.


  1. Wishing you well through this challenging time.

  2. I think those are both good ways to think about it. My Mom had a brain tumor, the type that is always fatal, and she was always being told to think positively. It made me want to hit some people, hard. I'm so sorry you've received this diagnosis, I'm not sending you healing vibes but I am truly wishing all the best for your outcome.

  3. I think you have the right approach. I'm reminded of the Chinese dude in Beijing who saw my young son struggling up the subway stairs: "With greater effort, you will succeed", not knowing that my son has muscular dystrophy and that effort has nothing to do with it. All any of us can do is give it our best shot and see what happens. Lots of us hoping it all turns out well for you.

  4. I agree with your thinking. You will give up the next year or so of your life and hope for a good outcome. I would probably do the same.

  5. Aren't you the guy who went on crvl forum recently and made fun of a mans death?

  6. Al made a pun regarding the notorious trait of an essentially public figure. And you are... ?

    1. Death is never funny. I am the guy calling this pos out. Protect all you want. He is a lowlife maggot. If you can't recognize that you are no better than him.